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Self-Care for Partners: Supporting Yourself While Supporting Her

You can't pour from an empty cup. Learn to take care of yourself so you can be the support your partner needs during this challenging time.

10 min readFor Partners

Why Partner Self-Care Matters

When your partner is struggling with postpartum challenges, it's natural to focus entirely on their needs. But research shows that partner wellbeing directly impacts family outcomes. Partners who maintain their own mental health are better able to provide sustained support.

Self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary. These strategies help you stay resilient, regulated, and ready to be the partner your family needs.

6 Essential Self-Care Strategies

Simple, practical ways to maintain your wellbeing

Protect Your Sleep

Even 15 extra minutes matters. Trade off night duties when possible, and consider sleeping in shifts.

Take turns with night feedings if possible
Nap when you can, even short ones help
Keep your bedroom cool and dark
Limit screen time before bed

Move Your Body

Physical activity reduces stress hormones and boosts mood. Even a 10-minute walk helps.

Take a walk with or without the baby
Do simple stretches during feedings
Try quick workout videos (10-15 min)
Park farther away for extra steps

Stay Connected

Isolation makes everything harder. Maintain friendships even when time is limited.

Schedule regular calls with friends
Join a partners support group
Text check-ins with your inner circle
Accept offers of help and visits

Process Your Feelings

Partners experience a major life transition too. Your feelings are valid and deserve attention.

Journal for 5 minutes daily
Talk to a therapist if needed
Name your emotions without judgment
Recognize this is temporary

Set Boundaries

You can't help anyone if you're depleted. It's okay to say no to non-essential commitments.

Limit visitors when overwhelmed
Delegate work tasks when possible
Say no to extra obligations
Communicate your limits clearly

Take Micro-Breaks

Small moments of rest add up. Step outside, drink tea mindfully, or just breathe.

5 deep breaths between tasks
Enjoy your coffee without multitasking
Step outside for fresh air
Listen to music you love

When to Seek Professional Support

Partners can experience their own mental health challenges during the postpartum period. Consider reaching out for professional support if you notice:

Feeling constantly angry or irritable
Withdrawing from your partner or baby
Difficulty concentrating at work
Using alcohol or substances to cope
Feeling hopeless about the future
Physical symptoms like headaches or stomach issues

These feelings don't mean you're failing—they mean you need support too. Seeking help is a sign of strength.

You Don't Have to Do This Alone

Supporting a partner through postpartum is one of the most challenging things you can do. Whether you need your own therapist or just want to connect with other partners who understand, we're here to help.

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